Up for the challenge?

Had a great conversation with a friend of mine tonight. I live to delve into whatever mystery it is that makes us human. Near the end of the evening, I started to wonder if I was pushing things too far. I was calling her on some things that I don't supposed she's examined before and she started to get defensive. I am very fortunate to have so many friends who call me on my shit (so regularly) that it's just becomes a way of life. I sometimes forget that this is an atypical form of communication.

It occurs to me that if people like a challenge, it's because we live from accomplishment to accomplishment. The greater the challenge, the greater the accomplishment. What if we didn't need our partners to be challenging (read: difficult) to keep us on our toes but rather, to challenge us to continually be honest with ourselves? Are we ready for that?

It's so much easier to say that someone else needs to change.


My photographs do me an injustice
they look just like me

~Phyllis Diller


(thanks for the book, M)